Friday, June 26, 2015

Kim's Story...she finally "gets" it.

I get the pleasure of helping people on a journey to health and wellness every single day. A client and friend of mine, Kim, has had an amazing transition in the past year. She is the definition of a CAN DO attitude.

As I was thinking about sharing her story I had an epiphany...why not have her tell it? So here it is - in her words.

I hope you enjoy our guest blogger today!

In her words...

One morning, about 10 months ago, I woke up and decided to weigh. No surprise, the scale read “E” [error]. So off I went to the store – in search of a scale with a larger maximum weight. It read 396 lbs.

I sat down slowly and just started to cry, I didn’t know what to do. I felt like a burden to everybody. I was 48 years old, with two wonderful girls (22 and 17); would I be around to see their weddings? I probably would not be around to see my grandchildren and, if I was, what could I actually do with them?

It took me realizing I was literally at rock bottom to face the drastic, dire situation that I was in. I hated myself.

Nobody that knew me would ever dream that I was 132 pounds in high school. I was on the starting 5 of my high school girls’ basketball team; we went to state 3 years in a row. I also played volleyball and was on swim team in the summer.

By the time I reached 396 pounds I couldn’t do much of anything. 2 minutes into walking the mall, my back and feet would be killing me. So I dreamt up excuses why I couldn’t go. I couldn’t walk half a block without absolutely feeling like I was going to die.

My 17-year-old dances competitively. My biggest worry when travelling was “where will we park the car? How far will I have to walk? Will I be able to do it?”. My quality of life was suffering – I enjoy my daughters, but was severely limited in what I could actually do with them.

About 2 months after the night I hit the bottom, I started talking to a very good friend, a woman/mother younger than me who is a fitness coach. I shared my struggles with her and I truly believe this wonderful woman saved my life. She talked to me at length – she made me believe I was worth it.

I yo-yo dieted my whole adult life. For the first time ever, I truly understand what the phrase “lifestyle change” means.

If somebody had told me 8 months ago I would be 87 pounds lighter and working out daily, eating fruits, veggies and whole grains, I would have told them they were crazy. That is exactly what I’m doing, though, and here is how:
  1. I don’t deprive myself. If I end up at a birthday party and there is a cookie cake, I will get a sliver the size of my pinky finger. 2 bites – it’s enough to satisfy me and I don’t feel guilty about it. 
  2. I forgive my weak moments – and forge ahead. I have weak moments – everybody does. I just don’t let them snowball into days or a week or becoming totally derailed. Nobody is perfect, it is going to happen. When I have a weak moment, I try to get away from food, go for a walk, practice the piano, read a book, or work out. It really does work. 
  3. I am very careful about when and where and how often I go out to eat. I always look at a menu beforehand. Know what you are going to order and do not deviate.  Even when it’s spontaneous, most people have access to the internet on their phones. I order water to drink, I skip the bread. My daughter and I went to Dixie CafĂ© Friday night. I had lemon pepper chicken light plate, green beans and a dinner salad with a vinaigrette dressing on the side, and water to drink. My daughter loves Subway. When we go there, I get a salad, no cheese. 
  4. I food prep on Sunday evenings. I brown enough ground turkey for the week, put chicken in the crockpot and shred it, cut up veggies, and make spinach/egg muffins for my daily breakfast. I work 3 nights a week in addition to full time days, and this also helps ensure I always have something available at a moment’s notice. 
  5. I learned to love water. It helps keep you full. And it makes me feel better. When I don’t have enough I will undoubtedly have a headache and feel tired. I just won’t have that normal feel-good, get-up-and-go feeling. I know it is because I haven’t had my water.
  6. I told EVERYBODY what I was doing. I sought support from my kids, my mom, my family, my co-workers, my friends. A support system is one of the MOST IMPORTANT KEYS to success. 
  7. I seek out others like me and embrace every opportunity to learn more. I am fortunate to work for a company that has a dietitian and a fitness trainer, and classes that correspond with both. Every group I can possibly join and become a part of that can provide me support, I join. If there is a class at work, I take it. 
I have a life now. I can go shopping with my daughter. I’m comfortable in a seat at the movies!! I don’t have to leave an empty chair in between me and a friend anymore. There is so much more room in my seat belt in the car. I don’t dread going to the doctor now. I don’t have to worry about where to park or how far away it is. In fact, if it is far away that is just more exercise for me! I walk my dog every day. I am lifting weights.

Kim in the flesh
Left:  August 2014
Right:  March 2015
I don’t even know the new me, but I like her – A LOT!!!     I AM worth it.  It just took a long time for me to realize it.  Food does not rule my life anymore.

I have a VERY long way to go, but I know I will make it, there is no doubt in my mind.    I see that light at the end of the tunnel and if I can do it, anybody can do it.  

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